Pretender to be tough easily shifts to be weak I know one pretender to be tough. The person shifted to be weak after he/she lost own bluff. I thought about the difference between real confidence and bluff. Real confidence stands by our sides, but bluff is put on own faces. Real confidence makes us stronger. Bluff can make us both of stronger and weaker. In other words, real confidence is asset, but bluff is risk. The result of bluff will be better or worse than without bluff. (I don’t like such risk, so that I try not to use bluff.) I thought about below matrix. Result With Real confidence Without Real confidence With Bluff Middle Risk and High Return High Risk and Middle Return Without Bluff Low Risk and Middle Return Middle Risk and Low Return I don’t know this matrix is true, but not so far from true. Then I thought about another things, “Are there perfect method?” If I have real confidence and don’t use bluff, there ar...
2017/1/19. What suffers me?
How it suffers me? High sensitivity about reputation!
Difference between selfish self-image and reputation others people see about me, this difference often makes me suffering.
If the expectations to me is high, I feel so pressure.
If the expectations to me is low, I feel so bad that I am treated as foolish.
And how the difference makes me suffering?
The difference is made by my own brain!
How to stop suffering is how to stop making selfish self-image & minding my reputation!
Some say that "Reputation is all", but I think that "Recognition is all".
If reputation suffers me, I don't want such reputation. Such reputation by others is no use for my happiness!
And I was used to enter the enhance looping, this looping is standing on combination of self-images and reputation.
If reputation is bad, self-images are bad.
If reputation is good, I was pressured that keeping the good reputation and self-images easily gets bad because of fears for failing. And as a result, reputation becomes bad.
High sensitivity about own reputation makes my performance worse easily.
So I try not to mind my reputation.
High sensitivity about own reputation person!! HSP about reputation is hard to live.
How it suffers me? High sensitivity about reputation!
Difference between selfish self-image and reputation others people see about me, this difference often makes me suffering.
If the expectations to me is high, I feel so pressure.
If the expectations to me is low, I feel so bad that I am treated as foolish.
And how the difference makes me suffering?
The difference is made by my own brain!
How to stop suffering is how to stop making selfish self-image & minding my reputation!
Some say that "Reputation is all", but I think that "Recognition is all".
If reputation suffers me, I don't want such reputation. Such reputation by others is no use for my happiness!
And I was used to enter the enhance looping, this looping is standing on combination of self-images and reputation.
If reputation is bad, self-images are bad.
If reputation is good, I was pressured that keeping the good reputation and self-images easily gets bad because of fears for failing. And as a result, reputation becomes bad.
High sensitivity about own reputation makes my performance worse easily.
So I try not to mind my reputation.
High sensitivity about own reputation person!! HSP about reputation is hard to live.
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