How to Distinguish Between “Feign Interest” (Type A) and “Feel Interest” (Type B)
Introduction
Emotionics explores how people perceive and move their emotions.
However, within this framework there are broadly two behavioral patterns:
“Feign Interest” (Type A) and “Feel Interest” (Type B).
They may look similar on the surface, yet the emotional mechanisms behind them are completely different.
Type A — Fear-Based Hierarchy
People of Type A have survived within fear-based hierarchies.
They learned that safety depends on control, secrecy, and dominance.
Their interest is often strategic — a tool to read or anticipate others.
Type B — Trust-Based System
People of Type B live in trust-based environments.
They believe that safety emerges from understanding and cooperation.
Their interest is genuine — a movement of curiosity that connects rather than controls.
Differences Between Type A and Type B
|
Observation Axis |
Type A – Fear-Based |
Type B – Trust-Based (Emotionics-Mature) |
|
Information Handling |
Secrecy, selection, and exploitation |
Sharing, transparency, and dialogue |
|
Source of Security |
The other’s obedience or silence |
The other’s understanding and cooperation |
|
Expression of Interest |
Feign interest (to read the other) |
Feel interest (to know the other) |
|
Conversation Structure |
Confirmation of hierarchy |
Building of mutual understanding |
|
Use of Energy |
Maintaining tension and superiority |
Creating comfort and resonance |
Methods of Distinction
1. Pace of Self-Disclosure
– Type A establishes superiority before revealing anything personal.
– Type B gradually engages in reciprocal disclosure from the early stages.
2. Reaction to Unexpected Questions
– Type A responds defensively (reflexive denial or counter-question).
– Type B pauses, reflects, and answers sincerely (open processing of information).
3. Tolerance for Reverse Flow of Trust
– When doubted or criticized, Type A cuts trust to protect itself,
while Type B tries to repair it.
– The former reveals a feign pattern; the latter, a feel pattern.
Afterthought
I do not judge Type A as bad.
They simply adapted to survive in fear-based systems.
Yet, I hope that more people will shift from Type A to Type B —
from control to connection,
from imitation to genuine resonance.
Emotionics reminds us that trust is not built by pretending to care, but by allowing ourselves to be moved by genuine curiosity.